Relationships are the key to Harmonic Wealth...
Relationships are the key to Harmonic Wealth®... It's so easy to be an Enlightened Master when sitting in your living room alone. But time and time (and time) again, I realize that relationships, both romantic and non-romantic alike, act as a mirror for my potential areas of growth. "If you think you are truly spiritual and enlightened... go spend a week with your parents." Unless a person is really "dialed in" and aware, relationships (particularly romantic ones) tend to be severely flawed and dysfunctional. More than once, I've had the opportunity to dance with my own devils while in a romantic relationship. More often than not, my ego has attempted to convince me that I'm really conscious and awake, while the other is unconscious... And thus, my ego tells me, the problem is a result of her, not me. The ego can trip on you, even in the name of spiritual pursuits."You have but two emotions, love and fear." It seems that a lot of relationships, particularly in today's world, become love/hate situations (or love/fear). More often than not, intense love can be followed by emotional attack, anger, accusation or complete withdrawal of affection... And this is considered normal! Another common approach is to avoid relationships, most often practiced to avoid pain. But this isn't an effective strategy either. Experiencing many "failed relationships," if approached from the perspective of awareness, can do more to enlighten you than years in seclusion. True love has no opposite...Think about that one. If a relationship moves from "love" to anything other than love, it wasn't true love to begin with, but rather infatuation. Many passionately dive into a newfound "love" only to realize that their "perfect infatuation" has turned into a perfect monster. Typically, we begin to see all the weaknesses and shortcomings in that person that mysteriously did not show up before. In actuality, each person offers the other an opportunity to observe their own weaknesses and where they have the possibility to grow. A perfect relationship will only be achieved by two people who are passionately pursuing and are open and willing to grow. There have been several occasions in my own life in which I came out of a relationship followed by a long period of being alone. In my experience, these times have been incredible times of increasing awareness. And then... Invariably, the Cosmos sends me the perfect mate to test the depth of my true mastery. Unfortunately in many cases, intellectual understanding outshines practical mastery. The things you don't like in others are often the darkness in yourself that you refuse to face.This dance with your own darkness is where the battle begins. This battle is never truly with the other person. The student fights the battle internally with his/her own demons. While difficult, this battle is potentially a great gift. I've learned as much (or more!) about my self, my own ego weaknesses and my own needs in a relationship as I've learned sitting in the Alps with my teacher. If you're interested in the topic of relationships, I've devoted an entire chapter of Practical Spirituality to the topic. For true love to flourish, you must dis-identify with the ego and its incessant thoughts and begin to transcend and live in a state of Consciousness, Beingness or Presence. To do this, you must become the observer of your thoughts and your behavior. Once you move to the point of observation (in other words, you observe the thoughts and emotions that arise), you no longer are identified and/or owned by them. Increased consciousness does not mean that you will no longer have the feelings and thoughts... you definitely will. The ego survives on these things and will create them even to the loss of your own happiness. But with increased consciousness, you can allow these egoic thoughts and feelings to arise, observe them happening, yet not be attached or defined by them. So begin relating and growing...Allow those around you to show you who you truly are. I guarantee it will accelerate your power more rapidly than any visualization or exercise will ever do. Get in the game! After all... that's why you're here. To your continued wealth and happiness, P.S. I've got six free teleseminars scheduled for April. Lines are limited, so save your spot and call in early. Labels: harmonic wealth, message, relationships |
This post is beautiful, has magnificent insight and wisdom and it's obvious it comes from your heart. I am deeply grateful that you posted it! Thank you! You might find it interesting to know that the very first book of yours I was ever attracted to and bought was Practical Spirituality. I was incredibly powerfully drawn to it!
>>There have been several occasions in my own life in which I came out of a relationship followed by a long period of being alone. In my experience, these times have been incredible times of increasing awareness. And then... Invariably, the Cosmos sends me the perfect mate to test the depth of my true mastery.
Absorbing fully the lessons of a relationship, or several relationships, into your being-ness is incredibly valuable and should never be avoided. Too often people skip this valuable time and "rebound" right into another relationship in which they face their identical issues coming up again. (And James, you know that the Cosmos doesn't send you anything you didn't ask for!)
Interestingly relationships are something I myself I found myself consciously avoiding for a time, not because I was afraid of pain, but I wanted the space to work on things within myself, I wanted to grow, without the distraction of a romantic relationship (they can be quite distracting!) Additionally, I wanted to raise my power and vibration to a place where I could come from over-flowing contribution to a relationship. I certainly did not feel the need to get into a relationship with someone, just to be in one (I'm whole, complete and powerful as I am), especially with someone who was not committed to growth. I knew that any relationship I would find myself in next would be one where both were committed to growth and looking at the relationship as a classroom where sometimes the work assignments were tough and uncomfortable, but those tough assignments would provide powerful opportunities for accelerated learning and growth.
I always knew in my heart that when I encountered someone with the harmonious vibration, relationship possibility would just be present. I know that in a powerful relationship with a person of harmonious vibration, a person committed to growth, the Whole will truly exceed the sum of the parts.
If two people in a relationship are honestly and deeply committed to giving power and energy to the other and not looking to take energy from the other, or feed off of the relationship but feed into the relationship, the power of the parts (the individuals) and the relationship (the sum of the parts) will soar. There will be times, like a dance where one steps back as the other steps forward, when one gives more energy and one takes more, then it reverses. Each person in the relationship ebbs and flows and the relationship dances with these ebbs and flows.
Relationships are tough, they require care and attention and a commitment to growth. You love to speak of plants when you say when you aren't growing you are dying. The same is very true of relationships, if we look beyond our egoistical "demons", we will see when a relationship isn't being "fed" and growing ... it is dying.
>>In actuality, each person offers the other an opportunity to observe their own weaknesses and where they have the possibility to grow. A perfect relationship will only be achieved by two people who are passionately pursuing and are open and willing to grow.
This couldn't be said better! What you are observing in an "other" is your own projection of your own "stuff", your own dark areas that are lovingly showing up for you to embrace and shine light upon. A perfect relationship takes clarity of purpose, commitment to growth (of self and other) and courage. A perfect relationship perfects Mastery.
Thank you again for this beautiful post.
In Love,
Amy
Keep it coming, James.
Charlene Murphy, Publisher GoodLife Denver Magazine
What a beautiful comment, you are truly a genuine individual. I cannot more agree with you…Here is my experience… Everything that has been put on my road, like love or lack of love, success or failures in relationships… were only there to remind me that I had something to learn about myself in these experiences. Every time these experiences were fully lived with an open heart and an open mind, this is where progress was achieved and life brought me another change… What I discovered is that change is the nature of life, accepting the changes without fear is what I consider one of the keys of happiness.
To accept the changes, I had to abandon myself, my ego and all the superficial things I was made of and attached to, and I discovered my psychic structure at the same time, honestly without any judgment on myself.
And then everything changed for me… I was able to measure the quality of energy in each relationship I had, romantic or not, that would help me in my quest of personal growth. Being wise enough to abandon that was not for me became then very easy to do, because I had no emotional attachment to any situation or any people that were related to me anymore, because they were not what I was.
Being well and happy with yourself and another person who may be your complement in life is another step, and I think it is all about willing to share differences and willing to grow together with an open heart and an open mind when the energy is positive and productive… all the rest, wealth, health and success are the gifts and bonuses that life brings!
Blessings,
mh9888
Before I purchased "The Secret" I imagined myself with platinum rings on my thumbs as a symbol of wealth - so you can now understand why I turn to you for questions regarding the law of attraction.
How do I release my request to the universe (It's hard to let go)? If hard core loud music is what makes me happy despite the negative messages in the lyrics, must I give it up?
Sincerely,
Deenah
'Agape', the all consuming love. Is the whole idea of perfection not simply a perspective as well? I have had my fair share of 'bad' relationships (ahhh, what exactly is bad?) but within each and everyone of them I find the meaning of 'agape'. Within each and everyone of them I find that they were doing nothing but testing, teaching,and reflecting me. Is testing my integrity, my esteem and self respect not making me stronger? That to me is a true sign of 'agape', to test my passions, show me what needs to be worked upon, allow me to see what needs to be weeded out of the garden. Anyways, I could ramble on and on, but will leave it at that....abundance to all of You, peaceful journeys....