Here's a quick Valentine's Day message from me to you... Remember, you can measure the quality of your life by the quality of your relationships. Check out the video below or grab the podcast. Labels: podcast, relationships, valentine |
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I hope you were on the line for my last Ask James Anything! teleseminar. We tackled a bunch of really thought-provoking questions, all on the topic of rapport in relationships... Here's just one of the questions we got to dive into... Sonia asked: I tend to be the "giver" in all my relationships. I enjoy helping others and giving, but there are times that I need to be given to. How do I attract this energy? Want to know what my answer was? Listen to it below online or grab the podcast. You first need to download Flash to listen to this audio online. Miss the call? Click here to grab the replay for just $10!Labels: ask, podcast, relationships, teleseminar |
Relationships are the key to Harmonic Wealth®... It's so easy to be an Enlightened Master when sitting in your living room alone. But time and time (and time) again, I realize that relationships, both romantic and non-romantic alike, act as a mirror for my potential areas of growth. "If you think you are truly spiritual and enlightened... go spend a week with your parents." Unless a person is really "dialed in" and aware, relationships (particularly romantic ones) tend to be severely flawed and dysfunctional. More than once, I've had the opportunity to dance with my own devils while in a romantic relationship. More often than not, my ego has attempted to convince me that I'm really conscious and awake, while the other is unconscious... And thus, my ego tells me, the problem is a result of her, not me. The ego can trip on you, even in the name of spiritual pursuits."You have but two emotions, love and fear." It seems that a lot of relationships, particularly in today's world, become love/hate situations (or love/fear). More often than not, intense love can be followed by emotional attack, anger, accusation or complete withdrawal of affection... And this is considered normal! Another common approach is to avoid relationships, most often practiced to avoid pain. But this isn't an effective strategy either. Experiencing many "failed relationships," if approached from the perspective of awareness, can do more to enlighten you than years in seclusion. True love has no opposite...Think about that one. If a relationship moves from "love" to anything other than love, it wasn't true love to begin with, but rather infatuation. Many passionately dive into a newfound "love" only to realize that their "perfect infatuation" has turned into a perfect monster. Typically, we begin to see all the weaknesses and shortcomings in that person that mysteriously did not show up before. In actuality, each person offers the other an opportunity to observe their own weaknesses and where they have the possibility to grow. A perfect relationship will only be achieved by two people who are passionately pursuing and are open and willing to grow. There have been several occasions in my own life in which I came out of a relationship followed by a long period of being alone. In my experience, these times have been incredible times of increasing awareness. And then... Invariably, the Cosmos sends me the perfect mate to test the depth of my true mastery. Unfortunately in many cases, intellectual understanding outshines practical mastery. The things you don't like in others are often the darkness in yourself that you refuse to face.This dance with your own darkness is where the battle begins. This battle is never truly with the other person. The student fights the battle internally with his/her own demons. While difficult, this battle is potentially a great gift. I've learned as much (or more!) about my self, my own ego weaknesses and my own needs in a relationship as I've learned sitting in the Alps with my teacher. If you're interested in the topic of relationships, I've devoted an entire chapter of Practical Spirituality to the topic. For true love to flourish, you must dis-identify with the ego and its incessant thoughts and begin to transcend and live in a state of Consciousness, Beingness or Presence. To do this, you must become the observer of your thoughts and your behavior. Once you move to the point of observation (in other words, you observe the thoughts and emotions that arise), you no longer are identified and/or owned by them. Increased consciousness does not mean that you will no longer have the feelings and thoughts... you definitely will. The ego survives on these things and will create them even to the loss of your own happiness. But with increased consciousness, you can allow these egoic thoughts and feelings to arise, observe them happening, yet not be attached or defined by them. So begin relating and growing...Allow those around you to show you who you truly are. I guarantee it will accelerate your power more rapidly than any visualization or exercise will ever do. Get in the game! After all... that's why you're here. To your continued wealth and happiness, P.S. I've got six free teleseminars scheduled for April. Lines are limited, so save your spot and call in early. Labels: harmonic wealth, message, relationships |
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I think that it is easy for us to forget to examine the quality of our relationships with others. Often we instead place blame or make excuses as to why we are not connecting with others or why we are not currently experiencing the empowering relationships that we wish for.
Thank you for this reminder to take a moment to step back and evaluate what I am putting out versus what I wish to receive.
Sheila
LOVE is the locomotive for eveything for everyone.
Mr. Ray you make a difference in so many lives.
You really inspired me!
All the best to you!
Kim
Thank you for answering my question there. I took your advice and I am focusing with gratitude on the wonderful relationships in my life, and letting go of my wanting of a romantic relationship. Last night I went to dinner with a wonderful group of friends, where I was introduced to a really nice man with whom I seem to click. I can still hear your words: "hire slow, fire fast"!
No matter what happens here, my Valentines day and everyday is full of love and gratitude for all the relationships in my life! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Pam
First of all-love myself so completely that if I never again in my life found a partner--it would be okay--in fact more than okay--great. At same time, I knew the Universe COULD provide--so I made my list--meditated and prayed on it. I also looked at the list from the perspective of "was I asking something of someone else--that "I couldn't or wasn't willing to give another?" [this is where many of us get into trouble-expecting someone else to fill our voids].
As I met many wonderful gentlemen I also used "discernment" --before meeting them I would
ask "Universe" "God" to show me any "red flags". WITH the agreement to be loving and caring and thankful to the Universe. I began to meet for coffee dates. 15-30 minute coffee dates. It was amazing what "red flags" showed up immediately! My job was to bless these gentlemen and release them back to Universe without judgment.
As I began to release and bless without judgment then the next coffee date --kept getting more and more like the qualities on my list--then at approximately meeting 14--voila--I met my husband Ken! Is he perfect? Perfect for me! I shared my list with him on our one year anniversary and he went to his journal and brought out his list--we were in amazement--approx 98% of the things we had listed each of us felt we have received it!
When he doesn't seem to be exhibiting those characteristics on my list--then I CHOOSE not to see him as he is but as he CAN be.
A few lessons here: I was willing to accept my current state with joy!
I was willing to give what I asked for--and not willing to make requirements from another in order to fill voids in my life;
I asked for discernment.
I blessed and released what I didn't want in my life without judgment.
And even today--I choose to see things as the CAN be and not as they appear to be; Yes, I do confront any uncomfortable situations we may encounter in our relationship--but I always recognize--I can still be in joy-no matter what.
I like the way you communicate, easy to understand, without going over folks' heads, clear, concise, and to the point.
More people are letting go of their excuses for their misery, and laying down guilt, fear, anger, and other all-consuming negative feeling, and taking more responsibility, by taking a more pro-active role in advancing the quality of their lives. If you plant corn seed in a corn field you'll get corn out of it at harvest and not beans. Its not rocket science to understand that the same principle applies to humanity and everything else in the universe!
Thanks again, for the simple yet profound message!
MC