The Quality of Your Relationships
Here's a quick Valentine's Day message from me to you... Remember, you can measure the quality of your life by the quality of your relationships. Check out the video below or grab the podcast. Labels: podcast, relationships, valentine |
I think that it is easy for us to forget to examine the quality of our relationships with others. Often we instead place blame or make excuses as to why we are not connecting with others or why we are not currently experiencing the empowering relationships that we wish for.
Thank you for this reminder to take a moment to step back and evaluate what I am putting out versus what I wish to receive.
Sheila
LOVE is the locomotive for eveything for everyone.
Mr. Ray you make a difference in so many lives.
You really inspired me!
All the best to you!
Kim
Thank you for answering my question there. I took your advice and I am focusing with gratitude on the wonderful relationships in my life, and letting go of my wanting of a romantic relationship. Last night I went to dinner with a wonderful group of friends, where I was introduced to a really nice man with whom I seem to click. I can still hear your words: "hire slow, fire fast"!
No matter what happens here, my Valentines day and everyday is full of love and gratitude for all the relationships in my life! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Pam
First of all-love myself so completely that if I never again in my life found a partner--it would be okay--in fact more than okay--great. At same time, I knew the Universe COULD provide--so I made my list--meditated and prayed on it. I also looked at the list from the perspective of "was I asking something of someone else--that "I couldn't or wasn't willing to give another?" [this is where many of us get into trouble-expecting someone else to fill our voids].
As I met many wonderful gentlemen I also used "discernment" --before meeting them I would
ask "Universe" "God" to show me any "red flags". WITH the agreement to be loving and caring and thankful to the Universe. I began to meet for coffee dates. 15-30 minute coffee dates. It was amazing what "red flags" showed up immediately! My job was to bless these gentlemen and release them back to Universe without judgment.
As I began to release and bless without judgment then the next coffee date --kept getting more and more like the qualities on my list--then at approximately meeting 14--voila--I met my husband Ken! Is he perfect? Perfect for me! I shared my list with him on our one year anniversary and he went to his journal and brought out his list--we were in amazement--approx 98% of the things we had listed each of us felt we have received it!
When he doesn't seem to be exhibiting those characteristics on my list--then I CHOOSE not to see him as he is but as he CAN be.
A few lessons here: I was willing to accept my current state with joy!
I was willing to give what I asked for--and not willing to make requirements from another in order to fill voids in my life;
I asked for discernment.
I blessed and released what I didn't want in my life without judgment.
And even today--I choose to see things as the CAN be and not as they appear to be; Yes, I do confront any uncomfortable situations we may encounter in our relationship--but I always recognize--I can still be in joy-no matter what.
I like the way you communicate, easy to understand, without going over folks' heads, clear, concise, and to the point.
More people are letting go of their excuses for their misery, and laying down guilt, fear, anger, and other all-consuming negative feeling, and taking more responsibility, by taking a more pro-active role in advancing the quality of their lives. If you plant corn seed in a corn field you'll get corn out of it at harvest and not beans. Its not rocket science to understand that the same principle applies to humanity and everything else in the universe!
Thanks again, for the simple yet profound message!
MC